“Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.”
~ Helen Keller ~
It happens to all of us…
Whether you bring it on yourself or it just shows up…
That pit in your stomach.
The times when your palms start to sweat.
I’m talking about when you are thinking about things you do not want to do.
The things that you know you should do in order to get to where you REALLY want to be.
I know you know what I’m talking about and I guarantee you have at least one thing pop into your mind and you are now are thinking about it. (PAUSE and write that one thing down)
You might be thinking of that big dream or big goal that you want to accomplish one day…
- The book you want to write.
- The business you want to start.
- The person you want to ask out.
- The vacation of your dreams.
- The house where you want to live…
You know the big hairy audacious desire that scares the daylights (bejeezus) out of you!
And yet you can’t stop dreaming about it because deep down… You know you can do it.
And you know by doing it you will become the person you have always wanted to be.
The problem is that there are a lot of steps between here… and there. And that journey is filled with feelings of uncertainty and discomfort.
The solution… is to face the problem… face the challenge… face the difficulty!
People who have successfully achieved their heart’s desires have a high tolerance for uncertainty and discomfort.
The challenge is you may be thinking success is a place to which you arrive. A place where your life gets a bit easier. Where things flow effortlessly.
The reality is that you will always feel fear. And there’s a reason…
Fear is an emotion (feeling) that can be crushingly strong and physically paralyzing. This is because fear has played a powerful role in our human evolution, and survival, and is necessary for our safety.
Fear is an incredibly intense reaction, meant throughout the years to keep us away from predators and give us the boost needed to fight when necessary.
However, today, that physically intense reaction is rarely necessary. Yet your body is still responding similarly whether something is life-threatening or not, such as a scary movie or an overwhelming meeting at work, or something is more dangerous, such as standing on the edge of a cliff, or a close-call vehicular accident.
Basically, fear is not real and what is happening is largely automatic and can leave you feeling drained. That’s because, no matter the cause, your physiological (mental) reaction to fear can be intense.
Whatever the cause, acknowledging fear, pushing past it, and using it to grow is essential.
Be prepared to feel uncomfortable as you push past it. There will be times that it’s just a matter of grit that gets you through.
Your determination and desire to successfully achieve your dreams and desires are a great inspiration to keep you pushing and expanding a stronger threshold for being uncomfortable that most people don’t and won’t possess.
Here are some of the uncomfortable things those who succeed at their dreams have learned about fear:
1. Accepting feelings of discomfort. Success does not occur without feelings of discomfort, inconvenience, and uncertainty.
2. Enduring the feelings most people suppress. What you actually fear more than anything else is your own feelings (emotions).
3. Unexpected and unplanned changes. Challenges are meant to test your boundaries, empowering you to attempt what was once thought impossible.
4. Being disliked or criticized. Remember whether or not you pursue your dreams, not everyone will like you or agree with you.
The feeling of FEAR will on be as real as you allow it to be. Your feelings of FEAR will initially continue to be extremely challenging, but do not need to be overwhelmed by them.
Remember that just because you’re having a thought, does not make that thought true. You have the power to shift your imagination and change the impact your fears have on you, by challenging your thoughts.
By changing your attitude toward and the images of your fears… over time, you will learn to value, befriend and eventually dissolve even your most crippling fears. And enjoy feeling excited and ready for new and amazing experiences!
“Be so busy loving your life that you have no time for hate, regret, or fear.”
~ Karen Salmanshohn ~
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