How to Stop worrying about the HOW?
“Don’t worry about how things are going to work out. Just believe that they will”.
~ Pritha ~
What is the one thing you do every single day that you have never done before?
TODAY … You have never lived today before.
You do not know what it will bring and you have no idea how it will turn out.
Every day you wake and walk into the unknown with uncertainty.
The interesting thing about being human is your nature; your ego does not like not knowing.
Feelings of not knowing create discomfort, insecurity, and uncertainty, and are just outright inconvenient.
Without knowing the HOW, your mind scrambles to fill in the blanks. Your thoughts run amok imagining scenarios, causing you to feel even more uncomfortable, creating crippling fear.
So, how can YOU step into a place of becoming comfortable with not knowing? And why is this important?
Your greatest power you have is to gratefully embrace not knowing.
Yep, your desire to know how is counterintuitive to not knowing.
And that is why the HOW does not matter.
It is really about helping you to understand and become comfortable with not knowing.
It’s important because the greatest power you have is not knowing. When you can sit in uncertainty yet know that you will create something amazing.
- When you can sit still with…
- I don’t know when they’ll say yes.
- I don’t know who will say yes.
- I don’t know how I’m going to get it done.
When you can sit still and say I don’t know what’s going to happen, yet I know it’s going to turn out amazing.
When you can hold the eager anticipation that everything will work in your favor.
When you can believe in the I’mPossible despite your circumstances, past and critics.
That is when you will begin to attract endless opportunities.
To eagerly anticipate that things will go well, even when you have no clue of how it’s possible, especially in the midst of chaos, is the power of possibility.
So the HOW is really not your business.
When you choose to BELIEVE that everything is working in your favor and that life is happening for you… You will turn the life of your dreams into your reality.
Here is one of the mantras I used to remind me that the H.O.W. is not my business…
H – HEAR with your heart.
Everything in your life is filtering through you. You hear what people are saying and what they are not saying. Your emotions are immediately triggered. And your feelings begin to imagine that which does not serve your best and greatest life. This happens to every human.
If you want to change your heart, ask yourself, “Where do I want to be a year from now?” I encourage you to consider what matters most – what is your legacy – so that you can begin to increase the Why inside of you. In this way, you will be able to tune in your heart and filter out anything that does not align with your DREAM.
O – Obey what you observe.
Humans are great tellers of stories. We love to make excuses, justify and give alibis for our behavior, as well as other people’s. We will make up the meaning of what we’re seeing, instead of sitting still and asking ourselves, “In the scope of my life, for what I’ve decided my legacy is, and what I want to create, what does this mean?”
Observe it and then allow yourself to interpret it instead of making up meaning immediately. Instead of making it up, observe it and then obey what you observe. Remember, people show you who they are more than they tell you who they are. Once they show you, trust what you see. Don’t make excuses for the behavior, theirs or yours. Observe, obey, and move on!
W – Walk with wonder.
Once you hear something with your heart and begin obeying what you observe, you can now walk in the direction of the thing that lights you up. Walk in the direction of your greatest DREAM, your biggest vision for your life or that thing that you want to create. Walk in awe and curiosity.
Instead of deciding and judging it as being good or bad, ask to yourself, I wonder how this is going to work in my favor? Speak to people with curiosity instead of judgment. Walk through your life with wonder and awe and you will be amazed at what begins to happen.
Allow yourself to stop stressing about the HOW and start sitting in the power and possibility of not knowing. Remember, the HOW doesn’t matter.
Expect and embrace that everything is working in your favor. Hear with your heart, obey what you observe, walk in wonder, and be amazed at how fabulous your life begins and continues to become.
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